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Here are the need-to-knows: 

When: stay tuned next dates undecided

Who for: anyone who tends to hide their true feelings to maintain harmony, avoid impacting others, or not be rejected.

What: practice connecting inward, sharing what you normally hold back, and discover what gets in the way of that for you.

Why: increase confidence to show up more authentically with others, deepen your connection with / impact on them, and feel better in the process.

Where: Woronora, riverside venue.

Cost: $150

And here’s the detailed version:

This full day workshop is for those who often feel like they’re hiding or having to perform with people.

Why do we do that?

Most of us experienced moments in childhood when we realised that being authentic was a threat to our sense of belonging within our family 

When we were young, our brains and nervous systems were hot-wired for learning and survival. So if we naturally and authentically expressed ourselves and were met with a loss of acceptance or belonging from our parents, it marked an important moment in our development.  In these moments, our authenticity was in competition with belonging. As you might guess, belonging trumps authenticity, in the long run, every time.

Belonging and love are fundamental to our survival in the developing years of childhood.  Parts of us that were subtly or not so subtly rejected, along with the trust we felt in our natural expression, were buried beneath new parts of ourselves that could win acceptance and belonging from our parents.

Of course, this was not obvious to us when it occurred, as it might be to a grown adult consciously choosing to withhold aspects of themselves to fit in with a particular social context. These changes to our expression occurred subconsciously. 

As adults, we simply see these developed survival traits as "who I am" and "my personality". Our memories of "who" was speaking or acting in those moments of rejection are long forgotten.

This becomes the water we are swimming in, patterns in ourselves that we aren't even aware are there. These parts take on traits that will have us be accepted, often hiding what we truly think and feel.  

This can leave us feeling like we are with others and yet somehow deeply alone, like we aren't being connected to. It can also show up as 

• not being able to just stop people pleasing, or 

• a sense of struggling to speak up when something isn't working for us, or 

• a recurring breakdown in our relationships in the same area without an awareness of why.  

The water we are swimming in

Do you have a sense of what we are talking about? 

We bet there are ways you have learned to "not be you", naturally distrusting your authentic expression in order to belong. The reality is we all have these tendencies to some degree.

In this workshop we are going to practise attuning to one another to create a space of connection and safety so that we can open the hood, start to see and feel the water we have been swimming in, and reclaim access to the parts of us that have been exiled. 

Do you:

• Feel drained after certain interactions ?

• Want to know how to stop people pleasing and hiding the aspects of yourself where your power lies?

• Feel tired of being a nice guy or nice girl and want to connect with your authenticity?

We will create this revelatory field for you to experiment safely in and explore these themes.

You will learn skills to be authentic and get to practise that in an environment where you are also being deeply attuned to. 

This might be for you if

• You want more ease, courage, and facility in speaking your truth.

• You want to know how to show up in such a way that you shape the conversations you engage in, leaving you feeling enlivened and inspired, rather than drained or trapped like a captive audience!

• You are curious to meet more of you and possibly who you were designed to be, learning about the water you have been swimming in and where your energy is getting jammed. 

• You want to be unburdened from a feeling of stuckness in relating that you can't put your finger on but you know is there, and you are open to receive reflection and impact to gain greater awareness there.

Facilitators:

Prem Kalpa & Khali Young

Prem & Khali are both highly skilled in the field of relational work. They are badasses in their respective fields, all committed to seeing people learn the skills and experience the healing that will have them living turned on, connected, self authored relationships.

Directors of Triibe. Together they have over 2 decades of combined experience in facilitation, counselling and leadership coaching.

Prem's background in psychology has her approach be grounded, compassionate and trauma informed. She is known for her no nonsense approach to getting to the heart of a matter as well as her sense of humour.

Khali's background in leadership and corporate coaching gives him an edge on being in the corporate world and understanding people’s experience of what it is like to be working in environments where inauthenticity or hiding parts of ourselves to belong is deeply entrenched in the culture. Khali brings his relational training and extensive studies in the fields of meditation, neurofeedback, psychology and embodiment to all the work he facilitates.